We try to create order by blaming someone or something. We can blame God and sometimes even blame the victim. But usually we blame ourselves, irrational as it may be. All of this is an effort to calm our brains and try to make sense of our lives.

We try to create order by blaming someone or something. We can blame God and sometimes even blame the victim. But usually we blame ourselves, irrational as it may be. All of this is an effort to calm our brains and try to make sense of our lives.

If we can hold our bodies, minds and spirits with gentle loving compassion, the well-being we all long for will become a constant companion.

If we can hold our bodies, minds and spirits with gentle loving compassion, the well-being we all long for will become a constant companion.

Love nurtures life, but we need much more. I think Andrew Lloyd Webber got it right when he wrote the lyric, “Love changes everything,” for the musical “Aspects of Love.”

Love nurtures life, but we need much more. I think Andrew Lloyd Webber got it right when he wrote the lyric, "Love changes everything," for the musical "Aspects of Love."

The U.S. Declaration of Independence gives us the right to pursue happiness. That’s all well and good, but are we finding that the pursuit of happiness can make us miserable?

The U.S. Declaration of Independence gives us the right to pursue happiness. That’s all well and good, but are we finding that the pursuit of happiness can make us miserable?

I wrote a newspaper column for 15 years. My most popular column was entitled “Four words that could change the world.” Those four words? Tell me your story.

I wrote a newspaper column for 15 years. My most popular column was entitled "Four words that could change the world." Those four words? Tell me your story.